What is a relationship health score?

A single 0–100 snapshot combining how satisfied you feel with how often corrosive conflict patterns show up. It's a mirror for reflection, not a clinical measure.

What are the Four Horsemen?

Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling — four conflict habits the Gottman research links to relationship breakdown. Contempt is the strongest single predictor.

Is this quiz a diagnosis?

No. It's a research-informed reflection built on validated ideas (the Couples Satisfaction Index and Gottman's Four Horsemen), not a clinical assessment or therapy.

Can a low score change?

Yes. The patterns that lower the score are specific, learnable habits — each has a well-studied antidote. Scores shift as those habits change.

How is the score calculated?

Your satisfaction answers set a 0–100 base; each conflict pattern that shows up strongly reduces it, with contempt weighted most heavily.

The relationship health check

How healthy is your relationship — really?

A research-informed score in about 3 minutes, built on the two findings that best predict where couples are headed: satisfaction, and the conflict patterns that quietly erode it.

What the score means

A 0–100 snapshot from satisfaction, reduced by the conflict patterns that erode it.

Thriving

You two are doing the hard things well — high satisfaction and few corrosive patterns.

Steady

A solid relationship with one or two patterns worth tending before they take root.

Strained

Satisfaction is dipping and some hard patterns are present — but these are the most changeable part.

Needs care

Things feel hard right now, and the patterns present take a real toll. You don't have to sort this alone.

The Four Horsemen

Criticism

Complaints land as attacks on character ("you always", "you never") rather than the specific thing that hurt.

Contempt

Sarcasm, mockery, eye-rolls, or feeling superior. The single strongest predictor of relationship breakdown — worth the most attention.

Defensiveness

Meeting a complaint with self-defence or counter-attack — which tells your partner their concern doesn't land.

Stonewalling

Shutting down or withdrawing when flooded. It reads as a wall, even when it's self-protection.

Common questions

What is a relationship health score?: A single 0–100 snapshot combining how satisfied you feel with how often corrosive conflict patterns show up. It's a mirror for reflection, not a clinical measure.
What are the Four Horsemen?: Criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling — four conflict habits the Gottman research links to relationship breakdown. Contempt is the strongest single predictor.
Is this quiz a diagnosis?: No. It's a research-informed reflection built on validated ideas (the Couples Satisfaction Index and Gottman's Four Horsemen), not a clinical assessment or therapy.
Can a low score change?: Yes. The patterns that lower the score are specific, learnable habits — each has a well-studied antidote. Scores shift as those habits change.
How is the score calculated?: Your satisfaction answers set a 0–100 base; each conflict pattern that shows up strongly reduces it, with contempt weighted most heavily.

Partner Mood is a research-informed mirror for self-awareness and stronger relationships — not a diagnosis, and not a substitute for couples or individual therapy. If you're in distress or don't feel safe in your relationship, please reach out to a qualified professional or a local support service.